Before I had my boys I definitely had my opinions on what I would & wouldn’t when it came to raising my children- ha, boy was I wrong. & I am still learning to let some of those thoughts go.. I love talking & sharing anything baby. Now having a almost 2yr old & a 5month old, when asked for advice I try my hardest just to give what has worked for me & my babes. My intention is to not say my way is better or this is how it should be done. I am sure I can go overboard & be guilty of this from time to time.. But I find some words women choose to use towards other moms so disheartening. After having Kingsley & experiencing this, it all pushes me even further to rewire my brain to have zero judgment on others & their ways. Sometimes it’s just fine to agree to disagree, not all babes & home situations are the same.
It makes me quite curious why this is such a common battle, for moms to scrutinize other moms for their decisions. & before some of you take this too far- I am not talking about moral standards this is about preferences, whether it’s about birthing style, co-sleeping or crib, breast or bottle, Johnson & Johnson or organic products, etc.. Is it because as women we need validation, the fact we are right or we did it the right way? Being passionate about your decisions is one thing but to take it so far to be so close minded. There may be a extremely fine line between observation & judgment. My boys are one of a kind. The way you choose to raise your children is your business, why make mine yours? We are all finding our own way in this journey of motherhood. Follow your own instincts mamas. Let’s all change the way we think, trade in competition for compassion.