I have three boys between zero and nearly three years of age. This means I know a thing or two about diapers. I change so many in a day, I lose count! Yes, it takes up a lot of my time. No, of course I don’t enjoy it (who enjoys poop?). But I will do it for as long as my boys need without any part of me rushing them to the potty or toilet training. I firmly believe in waiting until they are ready to be supported and guided to that next developmental milestone. I do my best to read when they are ready for such change.
So why are so many people surprised by this? I’m not sure. But I do know for a fact that every child is unique and different. No two are the same. For all I know, my youngest might be ready for the toilet before the middle one. There’s no way to predict it, and I’m not certain I could manipulate it into happening before he’s ready, even if I wanted to.
Understandably, Moms all over the country can end up tearing their hair out when it comes to moving on from diapers. Small children can be so unpredictable. When the time is right for our oldest to start I hope to give him the security and consistency he needs from my actions. No matter how extreme his own may be. I think potty training needs to be approached with a lot of patience and calming reassurance.
Becoming aware of their own bodily processes for the first time must be quite overwhelming for little ones.
I have heard that starting early can sometimes lead to more problems. Bedwetting is something we all fear when we reach this stage. But there is no need to push your child to be dry at night. That’s really another step for later on. And a pair of wet pants during the day isn’t the end of the world, so there’s no point getting upset about it. Shrug it off, and say you’ll both get it right next time.
I think potty training is tough for us Moms, but it’s so much tougher for the kids. Sometimes it’s worth looking for some expert advice from places like http://pottytrainingsolved.com/ to see if you’re really ready to tackle it yet. It’s best to try when there’s no rush and no big changes coming up. But if life gets in the way a lot, you might feel like you need to try a quicker solution as recommended by the specialists.
You never get these early years back. I believe they are the most influential in a child’s life too. I don’t want to spend the fighting and pushing for my kids to do things they just can’t manage yet.
Surely a natural process should feel like a natural process?