Thank you Apt2B for bringing a little color and simplicity into our lives with this 3 piece ottoman set.
The start of last month my focus was to change the way I ran our home. Relying on my husbands unpredictable work schedule to set the tone wasn’t going so smoothly. I decided changes were in order! If I can’t control the gloomy weather and I willingly want to work from home with my boys. Simplifying really is what my brain and heart needed.
It wasn’t until then did realize my anxiety and depression really was taking over how I do most everything. I remember not feeling so much like myself for a while but didn’t want to give it a name. I stopped doing the things I loved that filled my bucket. I was so out of routine and little by little the stuff started to trickle in without sticking with my rule of donating atlas one item for every one we bring home (plants are excluded, obviously lol). And making those changes seemed out of reach.
It really starts and ends with me. Sure bad things happen but strength is how you let them affect you. How you face the obstacles (big or small) and overcome them. It’s not always smooth, but that’s life.
Just to clarify, I am/was not a hoarder by any means. I am/not emotionally attached to every little thing we own or bring home. Like I mentioned in my KC at Home : laundry addition post I seemed to have multiple of just about everything. We have had a lot of change over the last three years and so we acquired many things. Every once in a while I would get the sudden urge to reorganize. But that wasn’t the problem so much. Organization is not decluttering. I had plenty of storage shelves, dressers, closets, and baskets. But let’s get real that means our shit is now semi-controlled. It doesn’t solve the real issue, which for me it was overwhelming to be always picking up or more like “cleaning” around the stuff.
So over a week or two’s time I spent a few mins to hours each day going through our house. Just about ANYTHING was in question besides the basic necessities and family heirlooms. Well three weeks after I started my husband pulled up a 10 ft truck to our garage (that was pretty full of cardboard) and loaded it all up. Clothes, toys, furniture and more was donated and a large went to the recycling and then the dump. And then I also listed a handful of furniture and baby items on OfferUp. A little extra money and feelings of relief- I can’t complain.
Our house isn’t bare by any means but it is so much lighter than it was before. And immediately there was a huge weight off my shoulders. But I was/am still not done. The days following were me running around organizing everything. I wanted everything put AWAY. And that’s where our 3pc Storage Ottoman Set comes in! We do have a closet in our downstairs living space that I use to transition toys in and out but these are the only toys they play with alll the time and have easy access to.
Besides K’s dinosaurs, he will not allow them to be put in the chest. He prefers them on the ground so his mama can step on them with her bare feet, ha. Also any toys that come with little pieces are played with in their room so their pieces are more contained then kicked clear across our long living space and then they are picked up before nap and bed time.
With two still in diapers it is so nice to have our diaper necessities close by and easily accessible but also hidden. My hubby uses this small ottoman for a foot stool as well while lounging on the couch. Our second small ottoman is by our garage door holding the boys’ shoes! It really makes getting out the door easier and we are no longer searching for the lot shoe that was kicked across the room, lol.
This is the one small change that is making a big difference.
Every time I get up from my desk or walk through a room, I put away five things. Or if the boys are keeping me really busy, each hour, devote five minutes to de-cluttering. At the end of the day, I’ve cleaned for an hour. So no matter the day we have had, even if I happen to not get alll my things checked off my to do list I am still feeling like I contributed to clearing the mess instead of just adding to it!
Also.. I am definitely known to talk out loud to myself but it’s what I say to myself in my own head is where it’s the most negative. If you have been feeling similar to how I have, I urge you to be mindful of your self-talk.
When you find negative self-talk going on, change it to reaffirm yourself: “I’m too tired” needs to be “I have enough energy”.
“I hate folding laundry” needs to be “I love when I don’t have piles of clothes everywhere”.
And “I don’t deserve a nice house” need to become “I deserve a nice house, but first take care of what I have. I am blessed”.
Tackling the clutter is hard to face when in the midst of depression or even in the trenches of motherhood. But little steps can add up to big accomplishments and feelings of relief. One small focused action every day creates a ripple effect, which will eventually lead to a complete change in your entire home. From clutter on all the counters to open clear surfaces in every room. It is possible, and you can accomplish it. But it’s best to remember it is a process!
We have had our 3 Piece Ottoman set for just under a month and it has held up without any sign of any wear or drool marks, ha!
I would call our front room living space as minimal as it will get for us with three boys and I love it. Huge difference than before. Plus I see many future photo session on the bench right in front of the window. Boys love to watch the kids get off the school bus or to just watch the rain fall.
In no way shape or form am I saying that simplifying or becoming a minimalist is cure all for depression and/or anxiety. But I can truly say that for me, it really has helped me push through some hopeless feelings that tend to creep in. The tasks that I once dreaded aren’t as time consuming. I also have had more time/patience with the boys and have gotten my work done ahead of time!